On March 31st I met with Tonya, an amazing woman who works for Utah Fertility Center where we've done one of our previous egg donations. She is such a warm and bubbly woman and is truly perfect for her job! We have met with her before while we were coordinating our egg donation, but this time there was someone else in the room: a sweet and loving couple that had traveled from China to work with Tonya and UFC. As we spoke and got to know each other the wife, who I'll refer to as IP Mommy, told me about her struggle losing previous pregnancies. Every loss was heartbreaking for them but the end result was even worse. Because of IP Mommy's miscarriages, there is too much scar tissue in her uterus for her to carry another baby of her own, a condition known as Asherman Syndrome. Both she and her husband, IP Daddy, want nothing more than to have a family together. I knew from talking to them how much having a child and a family of their own truly meant to them.
I wasn't the only prospective surrogate carrier they spoke with that day, there were two other selfless, wonderful women who they also interviewed. I'll admit I was very intimidated knowing that these other women were just as able and willing to help this couple, and I wasn't sure how I would stack up next to them. But I felt a special connection to this IP couple, and it appears that they felt it too, because the following night Tonya called to tell me "Congratulations! They would love to work with you." Hearing those words filled my heart with so much love and happiness for this couple! We have an extremely long and difficult road ahead of us, but I know every second will be worth it just to see their eyes light up when they see their child for the first time.
We had plans to move forward with our embryo transfer in June, but our IPs discovered that they were once again pregnant. They were hopeful that this would be their rainbow baby, but a few weeks later the baby was lost, only adding to the building scar tissue and further reducing IP Mommy's ability to carry any children. We were all heartbroken.
After IP Mommy had a chance to heal from her D&C, they were ready to restart the embryo transfer process. They've spent the past few weeks here in Utah, taking care of legal matters and completing her egg retrieval. We also enjoyed a lovely evening in Park City with our IPs, Tonya, and her sister where we were able to compare and contrast the cultures and upbringings we've experienced. They are truly wonderful and deserving people, and we couldn't be happier about our role in helping them to build their family.
We had plans to move forward with our embryo transfer in June, but our IPs discovered that they were once again pregnant. They were hopeful that this would be their rainbow baby, but a few weeks later the baby was lost, only adding to the building scar tissue and further reducing IP Mommy's ability to carry any children. We were all heartbroken.
After IP Mommy had a chance to heal from her D&C, they were ready to restart the embryo transfer process. They've spent the past few weeks here in Utah, taking care of legal matters and completing her egg retrieval. We also enjoyed a lovely evening in Park City with our IPs, Tonya, and her sister where we were able to compare and contrast the cultures and upbringings we've experienced. They are truly wonderful and deserving people, and we couldn't be happier about our role in helping them to build their family.
Because we want to help raise awareness about infertility, and fertility treatments and options, we will be sharing our journey with any who are willing to listen. We want everyone to know that there is something that they can do to help ease the burdens that others face, even just by being supportive and understanding. We welcome any and all questions or concerns; please don't be shy to speak up! We love and appreciate all the support we can get from those around us as we embark on this journey into the unknown.
